Rebels with a Cause: Reimagining Boys, Ourselves, and Our Culture

NYU psychology professor Way (Deep Secrets) provides an insightful analysis of the stereotypes that shape boys’ psychological development and undergird a patriarchal society. Drawing on more than 30 years of research, the author observes that boys in elementary school tend to be “openly expressive” of their emotions and that those who maintain strong friendships in their teenage years are less likely to become depressed, use illicit drugs and alcohol, or partake in other high-risk behaviors. However, prevailing beliefs that men are “driven mostly by their desire for sex and money” and seek autonomy over emotional connection reinforce a patriarchal culture that prevents boy from expressing themselves, connecting with others, and developing healthy coping mechanisms. Much of the author’s research is fascinating, particularly her extensive interviews with boys of color, though readers may wish for more robust solutions than the advice to ask male teens and children “real questions” and “allow for real answers.” Still, parents of adolescent boys will find much food for thought. (July)